Tuesday, May 25, 2010

5mins to Awesomefy your Life (the Power of Daily Rituals)




 
"Most of us think that the line of the path to mastering anything sort of moves this way -
the more we practise, as time goes by, we get better."

"In reality, this is not how it works."

"In fact, the path of mastery looks like this.

You practise for a while, weeks or months, but you don't really see much of an improvement. And all of a sudden, you make a jump, and then you hit another plateau. And once again, you practise for weeks and months, and you don't see much of an improvement. But you persist anyway, and then you hit another plateau. And you continue persisting and you hit another plateau.

The problem with most of us is - we start practising, we don't feel any change coming on; the change is just around the corner, if we just would keep it up, we are going to reach another whole new level of mastery, but we give up too soon."

Friday, May 21, 2010

The 3 Foot Giant

Three Foot Giant, a one-hour special profiling 30-year-old Sean Stephenson who, at three feet tall and permanently confined to a wheelchair, defies the odds every day and changes peoples lives with his unique anything is possible philosophy.



more videos @ http://www.youtube.com/user/Seanclinch

The Purpose


"A man/woman should conceive of a legitimate purpose in his heart, and set out to accomplish it.

He should make this purpose the centralizing point of his thoughts.
It may take the form of a spiritual ideal, or it may be a worldly object, according to his nature at the time being; but whichever it is, he should steadily focus his thought forces upon the object which he has set before him.

He should make this purpose his supreme duty, and should devote himself to its attainment, not allowing his thoughts to wander away into ephemeral fancies, longings, and imaginings.
This is the royal road to self-control and true concentration of thought.

Even if he fails again and again to accomplish his purpose (as he necessarily must until weakness is overcome), the strength of character gained will be the measure of his true success, and this will form a new starting point for future power and triumph."
~James Allen

Thursday, May 13, 2010

Challenge Yourself

comics drawn by Stuart Mcmillen

If you’re not growing, then you’re stagnating.
And if you’re stagnating, you’re dying.
Yet most adults give up on their learning
as soon as they leave school.
We die if we stop learning,
stop growing,
and stop challenging ourselves.



Wednesday, May 12, 2010

Little Known Reasons And Benefits of Smiling


Smiling is an international language understood by people across all cultures. I smile most when I’m with my friends. I think that smiling is something valuable and it shouldn’t be given away cheaply. Smile only when the occasion arises. There are times when I tend to smile too much, so much that it may look forced. Maintain the value of your smile by smiling with a reason. =)

1 Catch a Smile
Smiling is contagious and much better than catching a cold or a yawn. We are walking-talking pools of reflective behavior and it’s hard to resist a bright contagious smile. All the more reason to spread the love and smile at a stranger.

2 A Savvy Smile
That contagious smile from a stranger extends to our everyday interactions with people. Self-help and psychology books abound with the simple advice to smile in conversation (when appropriate) and in your surroundings. It gives the message that you are a receptive person and can improve relationships, with loved ones, friends, co-workers and neighbors.

3 The Sound of a Smile
While the sound of a smile might easily be called a laugh, our voices project a warmer tone when we speak with a smile. This is why smiling when on the phone is important and ensures a better conversation, whether with your mother-in-law or the sales person that called during dinner.

4 Successful Smiles
People who are successful in relationships, socially and in their careers have a smile that motivates and inspires others. No one likes a fake, so it is only those who project a genuine happiness and optimism in even their simple smiles. The act reinforces itself, and smiling can win friends and seal business deals, but also keep that smile on your face.

5 Good Showmanship
Being able to smile on command is part of a skill that gets actors Oscars, politicians elected, and workers promoted. The next time you walk into a room, realize that the first notice people take of you is what you wear on your face. Walking into class, the workplace, a meeting, an audition, even just the elevator, with a smile will make others feel comfortable in your presence.

6 A Rich Smile
Perhaps the most quoted philosophy on smiling comes from Dale Carnegie’s book How To Win Friends and Influence People, It costs nothing, but creates much. It enriches those who receive, without impoverishing those who give. It happens in a flash and the memory of it sometimes lasts forever.

7 Sunshine for Humanity
The English politician and writer Joseph Addison once wrote, “What sunshine is to flowers, smiles are to humanity. These are but trifles, to be sure; but, scattered along life’s pathway, the good they do is inconceivable.

8 Get Out of Jail Free
While a smile may seem highly inappropriate when your on trial by jury, a phenomenon known as the Smile-Leniency Effect shows that judges give smilers lighter penalties. Several court studies revealed this and even when guilty as charged a smile soften the edges of even the hardest criminal.

9 A Defensive Smile
Smiling is often an immediate reaction that accompanies embarrassment and rightly so. A smile or laugh can ease away the tension of an embarrassing moment and may be the brain’s defense against the influx of stress from blushing cheeks.

10 A Brighter Future
A study at the University of California by Dr. Dacher Keltner showed that women who showed an intense happiness in their smiles indicated a happier future. The women from the study with the brightest smiles were more likely to marry by the age of 27 and to keep a satisfying relationship.

11 Global Language
Anthropologists, biologists and psychologists now agree that the smile is recognizable worldwide. While there are hundreds of different variations of smiles expressing the complexity of human emotion, the true, teeth showing, cheek lifting, eye squinting reaction to happiness is global.

12 Changing Times
Even in cultures that have long regarded smiling inappropriate in many social situations, have adapted to what is only natural. This has been most evident in the business environment of Japan, where entrepreneurs have adapted smiling to increase trade with the west.

13 A Healthy Smile
One reason to smile is to celebrate your health, but smiling itself is a ticket to better health through neurotransmitters. Numerous medical and psychological studies have found that through the triggering of certain hormones, a smile promotes good overall health. This leads to lower heart rates, steady breathing and the ability to smile through stressful situations.

14 Serotonin Smiles
Smiling has been found to boost levels of the neurotransmitter, Serotonin. It is a vital part of regulating our moods, sleep, sexuality and appetite. There is an obvious biological connection to elements of happiness in the production of Serotonin. It goes both ways and producing a good mood, getting good sleep, good sex and good food will ensure the smiles and Serotonin keep pumping.

15 The Endorphin Link
Endorphins are another neurotransmitter released from smiling and known as the body’s natural painkillers. Not surprisingly, endorphins are also released when laughing, exercise, frequent sex, eating chocolate, sunbathing, massages, meditation, dancing, singing and listening to music to just about anything that leaves a smile on your face.

16 Molecular Smiles
Biologists have developed clever ways of understanding how all these neurotransmitters and biochemical activity interact. One acronym they use is SMILES, which means simplified molecular input line entry specification. It is a system of abbreviations to describe the structure of chemical molecules. Just remember, our bodies have miles of SMILES that help us keeping smiling.

17 A Delicious Smile
One way to measure how good a smile makes us feel was revealed by researchers at The British Dental Health Foundation. After being shown pictures of smiling people, the brain and heart activity of participates was equal to being given the stimulation of 2,000 Chocolate bars. So the next time you think of giving someone Chocolate, a smile will suffice 2,000 times better.

18 It’s All About Attitude
One specific study that Christopher Peterson, Ph. D has had on going at the University of Michigan found the direct link between an optimistic smile and health. He says optimistic people create a different biological makeup that boosts their immune system. The right attitude in life keeps you open to healthy ideas and overall health means more smiles.

19 Flex Your Happiness
The physical act of smiling can use as little as 5 muscles or well over 16 and just like any muscle the more you use it, the stronger it is. Body builders shape their physique so their muscles are defined without even flexing, just like maintaining a healthy smile will define an expressive, happy face.

20 Practice Makes Perfect
Genuine happiness creates frequent smiles and this is turn strengthens the ability to occasionally fake a smile to navigate difficult social situations. This is also linked to having an optimistic attitude in life and in difficult times, even a forced smile has roots in knowing that everything will be okay.

21 Smile Yourself Silly
Practicing your smile might seem obsessive, even narcissistic, but remember those endorphins. Just like exercise releases endorphins, you can get a good boost by smiling 50 times right in row. Do that in mirror every morning and you’ll be sure to start the day laughing at your funny face.

22 Chin Up
When we keep are heads up, the term, ‘keep your chin up’ has real physiological benefits. Notice that when you stretch your neck backward and look up, a natural smile forms in the facial muscles. There are many simple movements in the practice of yoga that produce this effect and probably why everyone has a giant grin on their face after a yoga session.

23 It’s easier than frowning
As a naturally induced movement, the recognition of joy or pleasure involuntarily triggers smiles. It takes more muscles and effort to frown, where a smile relieves stress, a frown or perplexed expression can induce more stress. Prove it to yourself and notice that facial muscles relax in a smile, allowing blood to flow freely through vessels. The contortion of a frown exhausts the facial muscles, a clear warning from the brain that you need to relax.

24 The Bigger the Better
Smiling wider than a grin enhances the pleasure derived from the act. On simple experiment used by some psychologists is to hold a pen horizontal between the teeth and grin as wide as possible, then repeat the grin with the pen placed horizontal between the lips in front of the teeth. Notice how much better a wide, unrestrained smile feels and remember that the next time you restrain the natural state of a smile into a grin; don’t hold back.

25 Endless Medication
Smiling and laughing are intimately connected and both use muscles that never really tire. While you may have laughed so hard your face hurt, it’s guaranteed that when the laugh fest is over, there will still be a smile on your face. Overall, there is no downside to smiling and you can’t ever smile too much, just at the wrong time.

26 The Real Deal
A true smile begins at the eyes, specifically the Orbicularis Oculi muscle, which involves another involuntary facial movement; blinking. While smiling and blinking are triggered automatically, the muscle can also be moved voluntary. Notice that if you check your smile in the mirror, or in another person, the most convincing area is around the eyes. Most fake smiles are like a grimace and just an exaggerated lifting of the mouth muscles. That can help in spotting the true emotions of others and enable you to return an eye-to-eye smile.

27 Stone Age Smiles
Smiling was essential to the evolution of the human species as a non-verbal que of co-operation. Since a smile is visible at up to 300 feet, the ancient Hunter-Gatherer tribes could signal to each that they were not a threat. This was a foundation to the peaceful co-existence for humans, so keep evolving and let everyone know your coming with a big smile.

28 Darwin’s Smile
Over a century ago the biologist Charles Darwin set out to study the similarities in the expression of human emotion across cultures. Years later solid evidence was found by Dr. Paul Ekman, who originally expected to disprove Darwin, but found that a smile is a smile, no matter what continent your on. This proved that a smile is a biological function of happiness, not a culturally learned emotion.

29 When Fetuses Smile
Dr. Ekman’s findings are further supported by the fact that babies born blind smile when happy, even having never seen a smile. The advancements in ultrasonic photography have also shown smiles on fetuses as the muscles develop. So smile, it’s your birth given right.

30 Genetic Happiness
The biology of a smile was further researched using blind participants at the University of Haifa in Israel in 2006. After extensive studies they found that facial expressions had clear hereditary matches to family members, proving that a smile is your genes more than a learned trait.

31 A Wrinkled Smile
While happiness comes at all ages, smiling into the golden years can actually promote longevity. In another study on optimism published in an issue of General Psychiatry, of those studied over the age of 65, optimists were 71 percent less likely to die from certain causes, than that of pessimists. A life full of smiles also exercises muscles in the face that help to prevent drooping, saggy skin in old age.

32 Happiness Manifested
It is often believed that smiling is the result of a happy life, and just smiling for no reason does not create happiness. Though as many of these examples show, smiling reinforces happiness in the actual movement involved, triggering the brain’s pleasure points. Happiness and optimism might also have some genetic traces (between 50-70% of our attitude may be inherited says Dr. Kathleen Hall), but producing that inherited smile is ultimately up to you.

33 Maximus Smilius
Hopefully you have a lifetime of smiles to remember in old age, but the great Roman Emperor Maximus said it best: "I knew a man once who said, Death smiles at us all. All a man can do is smile back." That is truly the essence of optimism in the face of the inevitable.

Tuesday, May 11, 2010

Give Joy !


Every single day, no matter who you meet in the day
- friends, family, work colleagues, strangers
- give joy to them.
Give a smile or a compliment or kind words or kind actions,
but give joy!
Do your best to make sure that every single person you meet
has a better day because they saw you.
This might sound like it is not connected with you and your life,
but believe me
it is inseparably connected through cosmic law.

As you give joy to every person you meet,
you bring joy to YOU.
The more you can give joy to others,
 the more you will bring the joy back to you.
 
[A Secret Scrolls message from the Creator of The Secret]

Thursday, May 6, 2010

Appreciate the Good Things Here and Now


To allow the Universe to move you in your life to happier and better things, you are going to need to look around you and appreciate the good things here and now. Seek the beautiful things and count the blessings of where you are. Dissatisfaction will not bring the happier and the better into your life. Dissatisfaction roots you to the spot where you currently are, but appreciation for what you have attracts the happier and better to you.

Remember that you are a magnet! Appreciation attracts appreciation!
 
[The Secret Scrolls - From The Secret Daily Teachings]

Tuesday, May 4, 2010

Change negative thoughts into Positive Action

From The Secret Daily Teachings http://www.thesecret.tv/



Look for the Gifts in everything,
especially when you are facing what appears to be a negative situation.
Everything that we attract causes us to Grow,
which means that ultimately everything is for our own Good.

Adjusting to a new path and a new direction
will require new qualities and strengths,
and these qualities are always exactly what we need to acquire
in order to accomplish the Great things ahead in our life.

Monday, May 3, 2010

Strength of Desires will Determine their Ability to Manifest

[Story & Lesson from the American Monks]
Here is a wonderful story about the disciple who went to his guru and asked:


“Guru, I seek enlightenment. How do I get to it?”


The guru explained that enlightenment will come when we desire it, that our reality is created by giving our attention to those things we want the most.


“But I desire it. Why has it not come to me?”


“Because you do not truly desire it” replied the guru.


The wise guru knew that a mere craving or simple want was not enough to turn desires into reality. He knew that he would have to show his disciple the degree of desire necessary to achieve such a manifestation.


To do this, the sage took the young man down to the bank of the Ganges River and had him kneel with his head over the water. Then the guru put his hand on the young man’s neck and pushed his head below the surface.


After a minute and a half, the young disciple was frantic. He pulled and heaved and flailed his arms, but the guru did not let him up. He could not get his head out of the water no matter how hard he tried. After two minutes, just when it seemed as though his lungs would burst, the guru released his grip and the disciple lifted his head, eagerly gulping the air that awaited him.


The guru smiled.


“Tell me,” he said. “What was your greatest desire just now?”


“To breathe,” the young disciple said, exasperated.


“Ah,” said the guru, “when you desire enlightenment to that degree, it shall be yours.”


What degree is your desire?


Do you want it as bad as the young disciple wanted to breathe, or is it simply a passing fancy; a “wouldn’t that be nice” kind of want?

Does your intent fill every inch of your being or does it simply cross your mind now and then?


When we desire something, our level of intent determines how much energy this desire will receive. Many of us desire to be healthier for example, but to what extent? Is that desire so strong that we change the way we eat? Does it cause us to exercise and take vitamins? Or do we continue with our same lifestyle, unwilling to make the changes necessary in order to achieve our results?


When the disciple desired to breathe, that desire went well beyond a novel idea. He strained for it, he struggled for it and he devoted every ounce of his energy to achieve it. On a scale of 1 to 100, his desire ranked right up there at the top.


So, now I pose the question to you: Where do your desires rank? On that same scale of 1 to 100, would your desires rank a 10? A 20? Or like the disciple, do you pour yourself into your intentions and give them the energy they deserve?

Optimists Creed (~ from the Secret)